Giving Thanks For What You CAN Do.

I would be a better artist if I was more like {fill in the blank}. 

We all experience it.

Every now and then we all have that..not so artistic feeling. You are having a bad day. You begin to focus on your weaknesses and the things you aren't so good at executing. The ball keeps rolling, you start looking at all of the things you think you do wrong and BOOM! You are depressed. The next thing you know, you are eating a whole pint of ice cream and now you are eyeballing that bag of chips...  Well stop it! Right this minute!

As an artist I've said many things to myself too. Honestly, mostly positive and encouraging things, but every now and then a not-so-great thought slips through and my artistic self-esteem drops. Not so different from what we do to ourselves as everyday human beings, except as artists, how we treat ourselves on a daily basis affects our product; what and how we produce. The insults we most often hurl at ourselves is comparing our talents/life/productivity/perceived level of success to someone else's. Though everyone has their bad days and this is a natural thing that we do, it is counterproductive. Sitting around crying in your beer (or latte or tea) about what someone else can do and you can't doesn't change things. 

So what CAN you do if you are feeling particularly low and need to pick yourself up a little? Say thank you, that's what.

Psst...I've got a secret...

A year ago this week I read the book "The Magic" by Rhonda Byrne. The same chick that wrote "The Secret". A couple of things about the book struck me right away. First, the title. I love anything to do with magic and mysticism. To my dismay (and delight) I found that there was no fairy dust or warlocks. Second thing that got me is the concept: if you say thank you and show gratitude for what you already have, it opens the door for more opportunities to come your way. Pretty amazing. Just say thank you. My personal theory is that if you are so busy saying thank you (which is positive) you don't have time to complain (which is negative). The other stuff that Ms. Byrne mentions is a bonus for me. Saying thank you simply stops the negative thoughts from coupling and having 'negative thought babies'.

"Now what do you say....?" 

How many times as a toddler or teenager (or adult)  have you been prompted by that phrase? "Now say 'thank you'. "  Now it is your turn to prompt yourself. When you are busy saying 'thank you' for what you can do, you spend less time whining about what you can't do. Therefore more positive energy doing something positive. 

So I ask you, what do you say when you have one of those days where you feel like you can't do anything right? Give thanks for the things you can do right and work towards improvement in other areas. Check out the ideas I have for ways to say 'thank you' for your talents.

Five Ways to Show Gratitude for Your Gifts:

1. Share Them. Volunteer with an organization that allows you share your artistic talents. A Boys and Girls Club, after school program, or non.profit organization might be just the perfect fit. Why not teach a class or donate a piece of art to an auction.
2.  Make a list of at least 10 of your artistic skills and why you are grateful for each one. When you make this list I guarantee you will be surprised at all you can do. You might even find that your list is longer than 10 skills.
3. Make a list of 5 things you've had the opportunity to do or experience because of your talents. What are some things that you would've never experienced if you weren't an artist? Maybe it was a trip or meeting a great friend.
4. Look at 3 of your best pieces. Find something uniquely wonderful about each one and write it down. There is something in each of those pieces that only you are able to execute with a certain flair.
5.  Think on 2 aspects of another artists career that you admire most now think about how you are on your way to making comparable achievements. For example: "James Dowerson has exhibited in 17 galleries this year. I have exhibited in 3 shows this year." This exercise isn't really to compare yourself to another artist but to show you that, in the words of one of my favorite inspirational speakers Wayne Dyer, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." When you give weight to your accomplishments and acknowledge them it makes a difference and validates your efforts. It acknowledges that you are trying, and that is what is important.

Write all that you've discovered you are thankful for down on a piece of paper. Carry it with you and pull it out when you are feeling a little less than accomplished. It will be a reminder of how awesome you are.